Friday 24 May 2013

TALKING DIRTY IN BED-HOW TO SERVE IT RAW OR CLASSY



When it comes to talking dirty during sexual intercourse women have very different opinions. While some women find this act inappropriate and weird many others actually encourage their partners to use dirty words as this gets them really turned on. However,finding the right words to use when it comes to talking dirty in bed can be a huge problem for most guy mostly because they do not know the right language to use. Just because a woman likes her man saying dirty things during sex doesn't mean she likes to be called a "whore" or a "bitch",yes! some women enjoy the fantasy of being treated like a bad girl,but women are different from one another.

Finding out what your woman likes well before hand will put you in a better position to know how to approach this very delicate subject. Therefore,it is important that you study your partner to understand her vocabulary.Is she someone who uses vulgar terms fluently or does she prefer to use classy words to communicate? How does she like love making? Does she like to take things slowly and quietly, or is she more of a wild woman who likes to experiment? By studying her and finding answers to these questions you will find it a lot easier to pattern your language when talking dirty.

If you have no clue whether your your partner likes your dirty-talk meter set to "a little naughty" or "downright filthy,phrases as simple as "Oh, that's hot" or "That feels so good" are safe start to begin with and will get the temperatures rising.It is better to be safe than sorry when it comes to talking dirty during sex,having your partner take on a different persona can help you experiment with all sorts of dirty phrases you never thought you'd hear yourself say and If you're at a loss for words, tell your partner what hot, dirty things you would love for her to do. If she is already doing them, tell her how much you enjoy them. Also,having her tell you what she likes and what she wants you to do to her can be very helpful too and then as you do those things you can ask her if she enjoys it.

Good hot sex talk is linked to good quality communication in general. Treat your woman with respect. Talking dirty is totally different from talking trash. Avoid using words that belittles her and always remember that you are living out a fantasy with her. So that doesn't mean that she really thinks she is a bitch or what have you. Taking creative initiative and telling it like it is Whether she likes it a little naughty" or "downright filthy, adds some fun to your bedroom experience with your woman but keep in mind that sometimes silence can say so much too and talking dirty isn't necessary all the time during sex. The key is communication,the more comfortable you are talking to her out of bed, the easier it is to find out what she likes in bed.

Thursday 23 May 2013

HOW TO APPEAR CONFIDENT BY FAKING IT



Being confident can sometimes be misunderstood with being cocky because of their similar outward appearance but they actually differ when you take a deeper look at what confidence really means. While women are attracted to confidence in a man,they are usually turned off when they sense him as being cocky.As a man if you’re going to have any level of success with women, you’re going to have to be confident, or learn to fake it.

Women are very good at spotting confidence in a man and in fact,most women admit that it is the number one trait they find attractive in men. Traits like body posture,eye contact,speech patterns are what mostly speak about your level of confidence as a man. keeping a comfortably erect posture while looking right into a woman's eyes as you chat gives the impression that you are very confident. Also,try to keep your hands relaxed at all side or on the table maintaining a relaxed,slow and specific speech pattern while keeping the conversation focused around her other things in general.

Building confidence most times or at least learning to "fake it until you make it" can be very easy if you understand the problems that makes you to be nervous in the first place. For instance, many guys feel inferior when they go out because they meet people they think are well groomed and dress nicely than them and this could make them nervous. The solution for such a problem is to groom yourself well,take care of your nails,your haircut, mustache and beards and always dress good and above all smell nice,as this will help boost your confidence and draw the attention of the women who will find you attractive.

Guys who have successfully master the trick of faking confidence know that in most cases being a quiet listener can be a great tool. Nervous people always find themselves talking and talking about everything they know without giving the other person any chance to speak. Women generally love talking and being a good listener will help you conceal yourself and give you some level of depth and mystery that will make her want to discover you.Try to avoid smoking cigarettes before and during your meeting with her for the first time because apart from giving you smokers breathe,cigarettes contains nicotine which is a known stimulant that increases your blood pressure.Therefore,it is advisable that you have your smoke well before you plan to meet giving yourself the needed time to shower,brush your teeth and use your mouth wash to get rid of the fowl breath and also give your body adequate time to even out the nicotine and return to a more balanced state.

Although it takes time for you to master the craft of building your confidence but as you continue to practice you will see it gradually becoming your second nature and before long you will no longer need to fake it.Use your mind to build positive experiences and expectations by creating thoughts of confidence in your mind and your body will react and display that confidence.

Tuesday 21 May 2013

MASTER THE ART OF SEDUCTION



For guys who aren't savvy with the art of wooing a woman this subject can be a difficult chase because of the tricky and moody nature of a woman's turn-on's and turn offs. Many guys rush right in, express their undying infatuation to a woman they like and expect everything to work out just fine only to get disappointed when they are turned down. The truth about wooing a woman successfully is that unless its a club setting where you are trying to hook up with her for a one night stand,many times the element of surprise doesn't produce a good result, therefore,it is better to warm her up by letting her sense your intentions and further reciprocate. The key is to make a great impression and get her to like you even before you ask her out.

The first step is to know the woman you like and then you can make a good impression that will catch her attention and make her interested in you.You must connect with her to get her to desire you emotionally and sexually. One easy way to get a woman's attention is to smell good because women are highly pumped by men that smell good.

Once you successfully catch her attention and started the process of getting to know each other you should make her feel comfortable around you and the best way to ease her up is to make her laugh. Women are generally drawn to guys with a sense of humor and once she feels comfortable and happy around you she will find it easier to let you warm your way into her heart. Contrary to what most guys believe,ignoring a woman or playing hard to get most times doesn't work unless she has already made up her mind to be with you therefore,you must be available to her at all times and give her enough attention such that deep inside her she feels incomplete whenever you aren't around.

Every woman wants a dependable guy,someone she can count on and If she feels grateful to have you around, she’s bound to think highly of you. It is important that you find ways to get her to think of you always,give her thoughtful gifts,text her late at night just before she sleeps or have a good-night phone conversation,this will get her interested in you before a few weeks.But you must try to avoid being "friends" with her,let her know that you are attracted to her from the beginning and do not fail to flirt with her and build a sexual chemistry otherwise you will end up in the friend zone like most guys.

Women love guys can tell stories in a passionate manner that intrigues them and make them dream of such experience.If she sense an adventure with you from the way that you talk and the way you see the world she would definitely want to be wrapped up in your reality. Give her something to dream about and treat her special because all women love romance so create a spontaneous passion filled with exciting and thriving adventure. There's nothing sexy in seriousness,so try to be playful with her but never lay all your cards on the table,maintain a mysterious personality and let her find you by being an unfolding story with no end filled with excitement all the way.

ART OF KISSING MADE EASY



When it comes to being intimate in a relationship kissing is usually the first step. Kissing is probably one of the best things you can do with your lips and it is a beautiful art that requires a lot of practice and skills to master.

There are so many ways to kiss a woman and be guaranteed that she would love it and if you are someone who has been rejected when you tried to kiss your partner before then this article will prove helpful to you a great deal.The question you should ask yourself however,is Were you too sexually demanding or did you have a strong breath odor? If you can’t find out the real reason, then you will fail in your attempt to kiss her again. When starting to kiss your partner it is advisable that you take it slow at first and then pick up the pace as you feel the passion rising.Below are a few was you can kiss your partner and get her to respond well.


1.Soft Lip kiss: This is mostly helpful at the beginning stage of intimacy between you and your partner especially if you are sharing a first kiss. When you are together alone with her and feel she is attracted to you,move your body forward and put one arm around her waist, with the other hand slightly touching her face as gently as possible, use your lips to touch her lips to show your wanting desire. Study her reaction for a strong desire and when you find it,you can hold her waist more firmly.

2. Face kiss:  Kissing all around the face, the eyelids, the cheeks, the forehead, the nose, and winding up with a long passionate kiss on the lips of your partner is a way of showing her how much you adore her. This will create a build up of excitement while satisfying both of you.

3.Lingering lip kiss: This type of kissing allows you to show your passion even though it is not erotic. It is usually done with the mouth closed and It mostly happens when one partner has just returned from a long trip.

4.French Kiss: This type of kissing stimulates both your tongues, lips and mouths and arouses both of your sexual desires if performed correctly. French kiss is always done when both partners are in a sexual mood, such as in bed at night time.However,in french kissing your partner you have to be careful with the amount of tongue you are using,too much tongue can ruin the excitement so instead of focusing entirely on using your tongue, try alternating it with some sensual touching and rubbing.

5.Reverse lip kiss : This allows you kiss your partner upside-down when she is lying down or seated by reaching from behind and have them tilt their head backwards while you lower down your head and gently kiss her lower lip,feeling her breathe on your neck.

Timing is very important when it comes to kissing. You must be attentive enough to know when to and when not to kiss a woman.It is awfully wrong to ask her if you can kiss her because women, in general, like it when their man takes charge but remember to always go slow and enjoy the kiss by making it last for as long as possible and you will leave her gasping for breath and wanting more.

Monday 20 May 2013

3 EASY WAYS TO BOOST YOUR ERECTION NATURALLY




In treating this very important subject,first let us examine how an erection is achieved. Erection of the penis involves a cooperation between the brain, blood vessels, hormones and nerves. It starts from the brain as a process that comes from the result of a psychological or physical stimulation,as a result of which the brain then sends signals to the nerves of the penis. It is these signals that relaxes the muscles in the blood vessels enabling the tissues in the penis to open wider and blood then rushes through the vessels in the penis causing it to become hard and erect.

Over the years scientist have made a connection between a man's sexual activity and good health. To achieve a hard rock erection, man needs his heart and brain functioning at high capacity. Also,his testosterone levels and weight must be normal with perfect working blood vessels. Impotence can be caused by many factors such as stress, depression, high blood pressure or smoking and they occur mostly when a man gets old. However,in rare cases it does happen to the younger men even though a few actually admit it.

It is important to state that impotence is not a life threatening disease but it can cause men to worry and occupies their minds thus depriving them the enjoyment of sexual stimulation for fear of not being able to achieve an erection. This however,can ruin a relationship when the men are not open with their partners so that they can both seek help.

A perfect erection occurs when the width and length is fully erect and there are three (3) natural ways of achieving this.

1. What you eat: What you eat affects your sexual health a great deal because erection needs good blood circulation, thick blood and normal testosterone levels.Therefore,eating the right foods and maintaining a healthy diet will help you achieve and sustain a perfect erection and some the  food that will help boost erection includes;

Eggs-rich in vitamins B6 and B5 which will contribute to a healthy libido.
Oats- rich in fiber which will clean up your blood vessels.
Bananas- are good for your heart and blood circulation.
Oysters-rich in Zinc which will boost up your testosterone production.

2.Regular exercise:Activities such as Jogging,weight lifting or stair climbing can help in blood circulation that is need for a rock hard erection. By cultivating the habit of exercising you will become not only physically fit but it will also help reduce your chances of getting high blood pressure or hypertension.

3.Boost your testosterone: Men’s sex drive and are fueled by testosterone and low levels of testosterone can affect a man’s erection.  One way to boost your testosterone levels is to Reduce stress and get enough Sleep.

By following these 3 easy natural steps and living a healthy lifestyle you can gain a perfect erection without the use of pills and other substance.stay healthy.

WHY OLDER WOMEN CHOOSE YOUNGER MEN




This subject no doubt has caused a lot of stir in society with most people seeing it as some sort of a taboo for an older woman to date or even marry a younger man. Since men have been dating younger women for ages, one marvels at the double standard at which society operates even though the cry for gender equality has never been louder as it were today.

Definitely women are feeling more empowered,younger and more vital than they have ever been and they desire to live it in every area of their lives including the bedroom.While sex is a part of the reason women choose younger men, it's not the whole reason. Women have made their marks in every area of human endeavor and in some cases much more than their male counterparts and thus do not want to be given status by a man. Older women desire fun and romance that in most cases they don't get from the older men. It is wrong to therefore assume that older women seek younger men for purely sexual reasons because the relationship between a younger man and an older woman is likely to last for reasons that go beyond their daily sex life such as compatibility in goals,ideas,reasoning and level of maturity.

Some other benefits older women consider before dating younger men are the facts that younger men do not bring issues such as an ex-wife or kids that she has to deal with,they are usually more willing to learn and this makes the woman feels she has someone who appreciates the value of her life experience and are often more attractive, With great stamina in the bedroom to match up with her needs.

This days women know they don't need a man who is more educated and makes more money to take care of all their needs because they are self sufficient. Older women are more concerned with what is the right type of guy for them and this means they are not restricted by the old boundaries of age difference. The bottom line for her is finding happiness even in places she least expect it.


Sunday 19 May 2013

HOW TO GET YOUR WOMAN TO INITIATE SEX


Whether they admit it or not every guy at one point or the other has desired their female partners to make the first move when it comes to sex. I mean come to think of it,we all know women love sex and enjoy it just as much as the guy,right? So why do most women find it so difficult to let their men know when they are in the mood to have sex? Generally,women have been programmed by society and in some cases,their parents to believe that a woman who initiates sex lacks good morals and with this sort of orientation it is likely that guys will continue to take the first step when it comes to sex or be faced with celibacy forever.

The good news however,is that you can learn how to change that and get your partner to initiate sex half the time. The secret is knowing what to do and how to go about it.Take for example,Have you ever listened to a woman complain when her man fails to meet up to his sexual responsibilities? Well,this will surprise most people but women know they don't have to initiate sex because they believe the guys will eventually handle that part and then they can choose whether to comply or not to give in. The way to turn things around is to lead her on and then hold back. In a situation where you have sex a certain number of times a week she is probably programmed to expect that amount of intercourse.When you are together,the trick is to tease her subtly with passionate kisses, sensual massages while you caress her softly and when you feel that she's getting turned on, slowly pull away and continue whatever you were doing in a non-sexual manner. This requires a lot of discipline but as you continue this for a week you will completely drive her up the wall and soon she will be all over you like a bee that found honey.

Because most women think as a woman initiating sex is a taboo, a lot of them might not be too eager to appear cheap. Therefore,there is a pressing need for a reorientation of the mind which is where sexual conversation comes into play. create a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere for your partner to be able to tell you her innermost sexual desires and fantasies. It is important to get her mind working in the right direction so you must give her lots of positive reinforcement for every effort she makes. You could try to set the scene by lighting a few candles with soft jazz music to compliment the tasty food and great wine.This will help you seduce her mind. Unknown to many men seduction is more powerful and effective when it is directed to affect the mind. Use your words to fill her mind with sensual and sexual images that only your touch or kiss would not achieve. Once you have succeeded in filling her mind then you can begin the sensory seduction.

Finally,you must continue to look good.Do not stop taking care of yourself because you are now in a long-term relationship or because you are now very comfortable with your partner.It is important that you dress neat,keep a clean appearance and great hygiene  Nobody will be eager to kiss a guy with "shit" breath. The more you continue to look your best the more she will be attracted to you.


HOW TO GET YOUR WOMAN TO INITIATE SEX

Whether they admit it or not every guy at one point or the other has desired the female partner to make the first move when it comes to sex. I mean come to think of it,we all know women love sex and enjoy it just the same way as the guy,right? So why do most women find it so difficult to let their men know when they are in the mood to have sex? Generally,women have been programmed by society and in some cases,their parents to believe that a woman who initiates sex is a slut and with this sort of orientation it is likely that guys will continue to take the first step as when it comes to sex or be faced with celibacy forever.

The good news however,is that you can learn how to change that and get your partner to initiate sex half the time. The secret is knowing what to do and how to go about it.Take for example,Have you ever listened to a woman complain when her man fails to meet up to his sexual responsibilities? Well,this will surprise most people but women know they don't have to initiate sex because they believe the guys will eventually handle that part and then they can choose whether to comply or not to give in. The way to turn things around is to lead her on and then hold back. In a situation where you have sex a certain number of times a week she is probably programmed to expect that amount of intercourse.The trick is to tease her subtly with passionate kisses, sensual massages while you caress her softly and when you feel that she's getting turned on, slowly pull away and continue whatever you were doing in a non-sexual manner. This requires a lot of discipline but as you continue this for a week you will completely drive her up the wall and soon she will be all over you like a bee that found honey.

Because most women think as a woman initiating sex is a taboo, a lot of them might not be too eager to appear cheap. Therefore,there is a pressing need for a reorientation of the mind which is where sexual conversation comes into play. create a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere for your partner to be able to tell you her innermost sexual desires and fantasies. It is important to get her mind working in the right direction so you must give her lots of positive reinforcement for every effort she makes. You could try to set the scene by lighting a few candles with soft music to compliment the tasty food and great wine.This will help you seduce her mind. Unknown to many men seduction is more powerful and effective when it is directed to affect the mind. Use your words to fill her mind with sensual and sexual images that only your touch or kiss would not achieve. Once you have succeeded in filling her mind then you can begin the sensory seduction with your touch.

Finally,you must continue to look good.Do not stop taking care of yourself because you are now in a long-term relationship or because you are now very comfortable with your partner.It is important that you dress neat,keep a clean appearance and great hygiene  Nobody will be eager to kiss a guy with "shit" breath. The more you continue to look your best the more she will be attracted to you.



Thursday 16 May 2013

ALL ABOUT THE G-SPOT



A lot of stories have been told about the G-spot,whether it truly exist and if every woman has it.The G-spot which is totally different from the clitoris is an area in the woman's vagina which was discovered by a German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg in 1944. This spot is located on the front wall of the vagina about 1-2 inches inside and is said to increase in size with stimulation which mostly results into a powerful kind of female orgasm and in some women ejaculation also known as "squirting". For those who may not be quite familiar with the female anatomy,The "front" wall is the wall of the vagina on the same side as her belly button. The G-spot however,is a bean shaped spongy tissue which is similar to the male prostate.It is made up of erectile tissue and thus swells up when blood rush to it.

The easiest way to find the G-spot is to face your partner while she is lying on her back and  insert your index or middle finger inside the vagina as far as it will go easily then crook it up towards yourself in a "come here" motion as you slide your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall.The rough or slightly ridged area is the "G-spot.

Sometimes it may require a fair amount of pressure to locate the G-spot because it is within and not outside the vagina wall. However because all women are not sensitive to G-spot stimulation you might not get a special reaction so do not get discouraged if this happens.While some women get multiple orgasm with repetitive stimulation of the G-spot some others find it discomforting but the good news is that as you continue to search for this spot you might discover other areas in her vagina that she responds to more favorably.

Apart from using the fingers to stimulate the G-spot,many women enjoy penile stimulation during sexual intercourse especially if the guy has a penis with an upward bend.As for the guys who do not have this bend in their penis,there is no need to despair because there are also various sex position that guarantees penile stimulation of the G-spot such as the "woman on top" and the famous "doggy style".The missionary position doesn't allow for proper stimulation of the G-spot unless your partner is lying back with a few pillows propping her pelvis from under her butt.

Another perfect position for penile stimulation of the G-spot is the lap-dance position with the male sitting cross-legged and the female scooting unto his lap guiding his penis inside her vagina.The upward angle lets the guys penis stroke the front vaginal wall continuously; with the bodies of both partners wrapped tightly together.A final positions that allow penile stimulation is the side-to-side.

In conclusion,It is important to understand that women are different and what works with one woman may not work with another so you have to be open to exploring and discovering what technique works best with your partner.




Wednesday 15 May 2013

NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF MASTURBATION AND HOW TO STAY HEALTHY


Is masturbation a healthy sexual behavior This is one question that a lot of guys have battled with secretly over time.There seem to be so much fuss about the suppose dangers of masturbation going around. Most people from a spiritual perspective have condemned this act and argued that it is a sin before God. However,there are people who believe masturbation is neither a sin nor is it an abnormal sexual behavior. These people have pointed out that masturbation is quite beneficial to the body helping to burn calories and boost self confidence.Others have hinted that masturbation can be very helpful in situations where one partner in a relationship is ill and may also helps strike a balance in cases where one partner needs more sexual activities than the other. They claim that masturbation has no negative effects unless it is done excessively.

Frequent and excessive masturbation is said to have both psychological and physiological side effects that could be harmful to the individuals health and cause physical changes to the body.Some of these side effects include Weak Erection, Premature Ejaculation, Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity ,Testicular Pain, Impotence in extreme cases and loss of hair.

How then does one know when masturbation becomes too much?What are the symptoms that one might experience?

Some the known reasons why people masturbate include:
To experience pleasure
To relieve tension (sexual tension or general tension)
To relieve stress
To engage in sex when a partner is unavailable or does not want to have sex
To relax
To learn about what feels good to them and how they like to be stimulated or pleasured


Excessive masturbation can lead to symptoms like stress, fatigue, and memory loss,youthful impotence/erectile dysfunction and seminal leakage which can cause sperm to leak out from the penis even when there is no erection.To overcome this side effects it is advisable to keep ejaculation down to two or three times a week while you masturbate.Sexual activity can be experienced more often if one learns how to achieve orgasm without ejaculation. Accordingly achieving orgasm without ejaculation stores bioenergy and makes penis firmer, hence your erections last longer and the volume one ejaculates is bigger.over-ejaculation stimulates parasympathetic nervous functions, which results in the over production of sex hormones known as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin.Additionally,the liver's ability to release enzymes that aid in hormone production is affected. As a result, the brain and adrenal glands produce too much dopamine, norepinephrine, epinephrine, and other hormones and neural transmitters.

In conclusion,it is important to say again that masturbation is a perfectly normal sexual behavior for both males and females and it helps you become more comfortable with your sexuality.However,like everything that has a good side masturbation also has its bad sides. Hence the secret for overcoming is to know when to get off by avoiding any addiction or excessive abuse which might be very harmful to the individual.

Monday 13 May 2013

ENHANCING MALE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE


In enhancing sexual performance in males the use of natural herbs,fruits and foods have been proven to be the best methods.Although,other methods such as the use of marijuana,pills and other substance have been known to be also effective,however, the side effects of using these are far more than the benefits.Enhancing sexual performance is largely dependent on the flow of blood and prostate health.There is more to the males genitals than the penis and testicles.The prostate is a very important gland that lies just behind the bladder.This gland is the organ responsible for the volume of semen produced during ejaculation thus it is very important that adequate attention is giving to it.

There are two significant and natural ways to enhance sexual performance in males which are basically regular exercise to increase the flow of blood and eating well.For the sake of this article,I intend to give a larger focus to eating food that are rich in nutrients.Often time in a bid to reduce the level of cholesterol males tend to cut down on the intake of animal products which are known to contain essential nutrients vital to sexual performance. Animal proteins are well known to contain omega-3and omega-6 which are essential fatty acids that are very good for the nervous system. eggs, meats, and oily fish such as sardines and salmon, Seafood which also contains zinc said to be the nutrient of virility are key animal products that help boost the nervous system.

However,not only animal products are effective for enhancing sexual performance in males. Food such as Beans,Soy products,Almonds,Walnuts,Oats are known to enhance the production of nitric oxide in the body.This chemical which also contains amino acids is released in small amounts and vital to both healthy blood vessels and the ability to get an erection. Also,fruits and vegetables which are known to be sources of bioflavonoids perform the tasks of antioxidants to fight against pollutants in the body such as cigarette smokes and pesticides.Research has shown that natural antioxidants are healthier for keeping the heart in a good condition.Berries,Sunflower seeds,Pomegranates,Ginger,Citrus fruits,Beans, Kale,Red cabbage,Artichoke,Brussels sprouts,Spinach,Garlic are some of the foods that can help build up your antioxidant level.

Other foods to help boost sexual performance:

Anthocyanidins found in berries, cherries, grapes, fruit skins and true fruit juices
Catechins found in true teas (not herbal teas)
Flavanones found in citrus food sources
Flavones found in grains, celery, parsley and other herbs
Flavonols found in grapefruit, oranges, apple kin, berries, onions, endive, radishes, tomatoes, leeks, broccoli and red wine.
riboflavin found in banana
androsterone found in celery
dopamine found in raw oysters
folic acid found in avocado



MAKING YOUR RELATIONSHIP A HAPPY ONE



The need for lovers to create happiness in their relationships is one that can not be over emphasized given the times we live in because of the hectic nature of our careers, complications from living in big cities,family and relationship pressure etc. It is no news that a lot of people may have an unrealistic idea of what a relationship should entail and this furthermore,has led to the breakdown of so many.It is wrong to think that being in a relationship should automatically guaranty your happiness just as it is wrong to expect anybody including your partner to be responsible for making you happy.Relationships are not meant to complete you or make you whole rather people who have experienced true happiness in their relationships are those who go into it already complete and share their lives with their partners interdependently.

Creating happiness in your relationship with your partner has so many benefits to the both of you and its important that as a guy you create the platform for your partner to feel the warmth and affection of being loved at all times.As a guy you must learn to make good on your words.Never make a promise you do not intend to keep as this could make your partner lose confidence in you greatly,however,it is possible that sometimes you may fail to keep a promise you have made to your partner because of certain reasons beyond your control.At such times it is very ideal that you are humble enough to admit your mistake and apologize to your partner.In a situation where you keep making same mistake and apologizing for same thing over again it may not be acceptable unless your partner sees that you are actually committed to making a genuine change and as such you might want to seek her help to make the desired change.Every relationship has disagreements and the key to overcoming them is to resolve to push through the hard times together instead of allowing resentment fester.Talk over your disagreement and be realistic about your expectations from your partner.Listen to her when and if she needs to talk to you.It is very important to a woman that her man pays attention and listens to her when she needs to talk about her problems.Most times she might not need you to do any thing or help solve the problem but having someone to talk to who is truly sympathetic to her problem is all she might need.


Most guys do not understand that there is a remarkable difference between knowing and feeling affection.You might be telling your partner how much you love her and expect that she knows that you do love her but without showing her with your action it might not be possible that she feels this.Thus,you must put your affection to show love.Do things for her that she never expect.Never get tired of showing physical affection with the little kisses,hugs and massage.Expressing your feelings for her is key,let her know she can rely on your loyalty and be open to her at all times.If she is going through hard times at work try to encourage her to success.This shows that you care about her future and desire the best for her.However,you must also learn to respect her privacy and space,never spy or monitor her activities through phone or social media.It shows that you do not trust her and if she happens to be innocent and finds out you have been doing that you might lose her trust as well.


It is also important that you learn the benefits of playing together. Partners who play together stay together.Laughter is a key ingredient for promoting happiness in your relationship and the more you laugh together the closer you become.There is nothing as romantic as taking your partner out on a date even if you have been together for a long time,try doing something new and exciting together.Always devote time for your partner.take up a hobby together as this will help you grow your bond and above all adopt better communication in your relationship,use words such as "please" and "thank you".You must also watch how you address your partner and most importantly during argument express your point across in a loving, respectful way that doesn't seek to hurt your partner.





Sunday 12 May 2013

TIPS FOR A ROMANTIC DATE WITH LITTLE CASH


Alright guys,lets take out time to tackle one very important issue that seem to be a major problem for guys who date older women.This is no other problem than money.guys who date older women in most cases do not often have a solid financial backing to sustain themselves nor a relationship.knowing that these women might be used to expensive treats from guys who have made a successful career can be intimidating sometimes. Although,we know that in most cases guys who date older women can be short on cash compared to the women,this is not a reason for a guy not to give his woman a treat every now and then.

Most guys have the idea that giving a woman a great time requires a lot of money.This is because they are keen on impressing the women beyond their financial capacity.However,the truth is that as a guy dating an older woman especially if you are not a rich guy,you do not need so much money to give your partner a nice treat mostly because she already knows your financial status and does not require you to try to impress her beyond what you can afford. Females who date younger men in most cases have been there,seen it and done it all,they have had a fill of the grandiose lifestyle that successful guys have to throw at them and if they have chosen to be with you then its most unlikely because of money or expensive gifts.

As a guy who intends to take an older woman out on a date you have to consider that she may not feel comfortable hanging out with you and the rest of your team in the regular pubs mostly because of her age.However,you do not need to take her to a five star hotel or a posh restaurant either to have a great time.Find out if she likes to engage in outdoor activities such as hiking,swimming or even fishing.A romantic picnic while camping by a lake is a great idea and she would love the serenity and stillness of the lake.Also,you can even stay at home and invite her over for a homemade dinner or cook something new together,this will give you enough time to play with the food and she is bound to cherish the experience. Aside from cooking together there is nothing a woman loves as much as breakfast in bed.every woman has seen this in a movie or at least read about a romantic breakfast in bed after a great night and secretly waits for a man that will treat her to same.You will always win her heart with this but if you happen to be a guy who can not cook,you can take our time to get breakfast from a restaurant for the two of you while she is still asleep and then bring it to her in bed.

Finally,you could try giving her a foot massage or paint her nails.This will make her feel pampered and you will both have something to laugh about.every woman wants to feel special and it doesn't have to be an expensive gift from you to achieve this,so long as you are taking out the time to do these things she would love you for it.

Saturday 11 May 2013

WHY WOMEN FIND BAD BOYS IRRESISTIBLE


Have you ever asked why women find bad boys attractive?As a nice guy who is mostly a gentleman with the ladies you may wonder why you do not attract the most women.While they probably keep you in the friendship zone.It is the guys with jerk-like attitudes that actually get the attention of these women. Basically,selfish "jerk" behaviors may sound unhealthy but normally triggers the needed emotions in a woman to make her feel irresistible attraction.

So why are the  girls attracted to boys who are world-class douche bags?

There are certain personality traits of the bad boy that women feel attracted to.It is important to note here that women aren't attracted to the abusive,mean and negative part of the bad boy personality.unpredictability, uncontrollability, challenging dominance,these are few of the qualities that a bad boy possesses that women find attractive and thus make them willing to turn a blind eye to other abusive traits of the bad boy.These traits,when channeled correctly trigger the natural attraction mechanism inside the woman. Furthermore this is not to say that nice guys do not get women attracted to them.The reason most nice guys seem to have problems with women isn't because they are nice.Rather,it is because of all the other traits they may possess such as being physically and emotionally clingy, overly sensitive, and just over-all pushovers treating everyone nicely even those who are rude and inconsiderate because they are in constant need of approval from other people which strikes the ladies as a lack of strong personality or identity.

Therefore,its important for you as a guy to have your own time and space and dreams and plans and stick to them.It is necessary for you as a guy to discover your values and know what you want.creating your own character even if nobody likes you.the important thing is for you to have an identity and know what it is that you want out of life.do not try to impress anyone by compromising who you are or trying to change for someone.never loose sight of yourself.you must bring yourself to the point where you do everything with a purpose.It will also help if you are current with issues happening around by reading and mixing with people who real purpose in life and know what they want.make yourself, your life and your time a priority. try not to care too much or worry unnecessarily over who you have impressed,who likes you and who hates you and just go ahead with living your life.you owe no one any explanations for how you live your life and the things you do that makes you happy neither do you need peoples approval to be yourself.this makes you look timid and passive. always take the lead and never wait for anybody to tell you what to do or where to go as a man.

A good quality of the bad boy is honesty about what they want.If a "bad" boy likes a girl, he will show her with no doubt in his mind while a nice guy tends to hide his interest and mostly end up in the "friend zone".A bad boy might stare at a girls chest , while a nice guy tries to sneak a peak in.yet,above everything else you must be independent with yourself and your own company.Always find ways to create your own fun and you will realize the less you need people the more people will need you.Always value yourself.your opinion about yourself is the only opinion that really matters.The most important part of having self respect is to not put up with people, men and women, who are disrespectful toward you, your family or friends.

Thursday 9 May 2013

HOW TO COPE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A CAREER WOMAN



One thing about relationship with a career woman is that most of them may not have the much time needed for their partners because of the huge responsibilities they might have to their work,friends and in some cases kids.Although work is important as humans,however, it becomes a problem when it takes the most part of a persons life and affects their relationship with their partners.For a guy who is new to dating older women you might find this a bit difficult to stomach and feel that your partner may not care enough about you.This is because older women unlike their younger counterparts who may have lots of free time to spend with you have very active and busy lives.


In dating an older woman therefore,there are a lot of things you will need to put up with about her lifestyle that you probably never experienced dating a young girl.It is important that you understand the pressures that goes with her work.You must know before hand what her job entails as well as other commitment she might have that might keep her away from you most of the time.Its wrong for you to expect her to cut down her workload if you already knew and agreed with putting up with her responsibilities from the beginning.however,if there is need for some adjustment it should be brought up in a positive way and you can both come up with creative solutions.Nagging and complaining will not do you any good because when you are often angry with your partner then its almost unlikely that she would want to find constructive ways of solving the problem with you.

It is very wrong to compare or compete with you friends who you think may have enough time to spend with their partners.Instead you should appreciate the time you have and share with your partner and try to make this as sweet and special as you can instead of using it to fight and argue.Try to establish non-negotiable time for the both of you to do something together.This time could be used to watch a movie,share a walk,cook a meal together however,the most important thing is that you both agree on it.Using scolding as a reinforcement to get her to spend time with you will not do a good job instead give her a great reason to slow down and spend some time with you.Always try to be tactical without blaming or broaching the issue with resentment.It will only give her reasons to fight back.

Finally,above everything else it is important to make the time you spend together count.It is always better if you have something you are doing that will keep you busy.Most young men feel there isn't much need for a job and see their relationship with an older woman as their career.This is one reason they might feel a stronger attachment to their partner than is necessary.



EFFECT OF SIZE OF THE PENIS IN FEMALE SEXUAL SATISFACTION


For a lot of guys the size of the penis is a reason to worry because they feel that the size of the penis actually has a lot to do with female satisfaction during sexual intercourse. Although research has shown that the size of the penis has little or no effect on sexual satisfaction for a woman.As a matter of fact,if there are any effects at all it will be basically psychological.

Yet a lot of guys still hold unto the idea that a big penis is far more preferable to a small one and argue that the larger the size of the penis the more pleasure a woman gets during sex.This thought has forced so many guys to find ways of enlarging their penis with the use of pills and other penis enlargement solutions.The size of the mans penis through out the history of sex has been known to impact tremendously on his confidence and self esteem.most guys in their subconscious believe that a large penis is needed to give their partners the desired pleasure and sensation and may feel inferior for possessing a small penis.

But the question is, what do women truly desire?Does the penis size count for much when it comes to the issue of sex?if size actually counts,then which is more preferable;length or width?

The importance of the size of the penis varies from one female to another.While some may choose length over width,others may argue that a long penis could cause pain and discomfort during sexual intercourse and they prefer the width because it gives the woman a greater feeling of fullness.Also the width at the base of the penis may be more stimulating to the clitoris and this amounts to greater pleasure.It is imperative to understand the anatomy of the vagina in order to understand in full the effect the penis might have on sexual performance and satisfaction. According to expert studies,the opening of the vagina carries the highest concentration of nerve endings.This is the area where the woman experiences intense arousal when she is stimulated.Upon insertion of the penis into the vagina the woman experiences pleasurable sensation thus making a deeper penetration of no benefits.

The labia manora and majora are the most sensitive part of the vagina openings that first sense the penis upon insertion into the vagina.both of these opening hold the highest concentration of sensitive nerve endings designed for sexual pleasure and makes it possible for a small size penis to give pleasure to a woman unless the penis is microscopic.

Wednesday 8 May 2013

HOW TO COPE IN A SECRET ROMANCE


Most women who date younger men some times like to keep the relationship a secret.This could be because these women are mainly interested in experimenting and knowing how it feels to date a younger man.Some others however,may just not be comfortable being seen with their younger lover in public because of the unrealistic perception of society as what should be the standard for a relationship between a man and a woman.People tend to see older women who date younger men as desperate but do not see anything wrong with older men who date girls young enough to be their grand daughters.Though many guys find such secret romance acceptable,a great number of guys do not share this sentiment.

As a guy who is in a relationship with an older woman that prefers to keep the romance a secret you may not like it but that shouldn't stop you from enjoying your relationship and having a good time with your partner.The first thing you should have is an understanding of the situation.It is unwise to assume that your partner is cheating on you because she is not as open as you want her to be in public with your relationship.Therefore,you should rather talk to her to find out her reasons for wanting to keep the romance a secret.

Sometimes,women who keep secret romance do this because they fear that the guys they are dating may not be serious about a future with them.The message you convey with your body language and actions as a guy speaks louder to a woman than your words.She will only be comfortable with you when and if you are comfortable with yourself.Confidence plays a key role in getting her to come out of her shells.If you are a guy who gets tossed by the wind of public opinion when it comes to making decisions about your personal life she might find it very difficult to introduce you to friends and relatives as her lover.It is therefore,important that you know exactly what you want and how to go about it without giving listening ears to the voice of other people.

Have a vacation together.A trip to a different city where either one of you have people who know or care about you might just be all that she needs to loosen up.It is also important to be clear about your purpose and intentions.If you tell a woman that you want a future with her as your partner then your actions should compliment your words.Be confident enough to introduce her to your friends and family as your lover and be firm about your choice.This will help her gain confidence in you.

Women who prefer secret romance with their young lovers are most times very sensitive with their feelings and emotions far more than the women who do not care about the opinions of other people when it comes to issues regarding their personal lives.mostly,these women are often new to dating younger men and prefer to study and watch carefully before making a public declaration of love for their partners.Once she begins to see that your intentions are genuine and your feelings for her are true she will begin to take bold steps towards releasing all of herself to you.You must therefore,learn the virtue of patience and apply wisdom and maturity.

It is particularly more difficult nowadays with people sharing their relationship experience with their lovers on Facebook, Twitter and other social media network so you might feel left out of the "fun" because your partner prefers to keep your relationship a secret but do not despair.All you need is to ask yourself why you want to be in the bandwagon in the first place.If you truly care about your partner then your priority would be to make her happy and comfortable not showing off to impress other people on the internet with photographs.Most importantly,you must continue to show your partner love always because love is the greatest force to changing any situation for better.

Tuesday 7 May 2013

LETS TALK ABOUT SEX!


Today we are taking a look into the beautiful subject of sex.No doubt sex plays a very important function in the love relationship between a man and a woman.one which some people however, claim is overrated, but, overrated or not it is clear that sex has caused the breakdown of many relationship either as a result of too much demand for it or an outright lack of it.thus,the subject is one which must not be avoided because of its important nature.furthermore,there are a few areas I would like to focus attention in a bid to illuminate peoples mind about the roles and importance of sex in a relationship.

Sex as a tool:

For a long time in the history of human existence sex has been used as a relationship builder or "tool" to express love,passion and companionship.It has been very effective for this purpose and a lot of relationships have survived collapse as a result of an improvement in sexual activities between couples.It is no news that couples who are sexually attracted to themselves have been discovered to be a lot more happier than couples whose sexual attraction for one another have faded over time.

Sex for some people have been used to relief stress and clear heavy thoughts from their minds.For others however,sex is just another way of having fun and wrapping up a great night out.Yet one thing all these people share in common is that they all use sex as a tool to stimulate positive energy in their minds and bodies to create pleasurable feelings.

Therefore,now that we mentioned that sex can be used as a tool for creating pleasure,it is imperative that we talk about the wrong usage of this tool especially by the males.It is unarguable that women tend to have a better understanding of love making compared to the men.For most guys sex is all about getting an erection and banging a woman hard just as they have seen in porn.however,this notion is very wrong about making love to a woman in the real world.Its true that women sometimes want hard thrusting and ass slapping but they also crave tenderness because they thrive more on emotions and feelings.The power of foreplay and after play can not be underestimated in making love to a woman.It is important that you give attention to her body and try to find out where she likes to be touched without necessarily distracting her with words in any form.actions they say speak louder than words so if she is enjoying whatever you are doing to her body you wont need her words to know that.

Just as important as touching a woman also is kissing.There are so many sensitive spot in a woman's body that a kiss will bring alive during sex.It is always advisable to start from the top and work your way down the bottom with slow kisses to her forehead her lips,her neck,her shoulders, breast and nipples,down to her belly button and finally her vagina.Now,this is the spot I like to talk about because a lot of guys have issues with going down south for certain reasons and excuses.I have nothing against these guys but as a guy who does it or intend doing it then it is important that you apply the correct tactics to give your woman the highest pleasure that she craves.below are a few tricks you might find helpful as a guy.

#Work your way down slowly:

Do not rush it.slowly and steadily kiss her stomach and watch her as she lays on her back studying her body reaction to each kiss.get close enough giving the impression you are going straight for her vagina but do not give in just yet.warm her up before you proceed to take of her underwear.kiss her thigh and her stomach alternatively.

#Stay at the top:

When you are ready to zero in on her vagina after removing her underwear,tease her with your tongue.it is better to lick from bottom to top.lick the outer edges of her labia then gently spread them and lick the inner lips as though you were still teasing her.she will respond by spreading her legs more or squeezing your head with her thighs.This is a good sign so do not worry.

#Keep her clits in focus:

Rotate the tip of your tongue around her clitoris and suck on her clits gently.when in doubt about the best strokes to approach the clitoris then try writing letters of the alphabet with your tongue or spelling words.This offers a wider variety of approach.

#Introduce your fingers:

Once you successfully get her attention with rotating your tongue around her clitoris and sucking her clits then you should move on to the next level by inserting your thumb to substitute your tongue in swirling her clitoris.penetrating her with either your index or middle finger and making a "come here" notion is a perfect way of locating her G-spot which is key.As you do this also insert the length of your tongue deep inside her pussy as much as you can and lick up and down with your finger still inside her.

#Continue with your tongue and finger:

It is important that you maintain eye contact as you suck her around her clits and use your finger to stimulate her G-spot.when you discover she is wetter then its time to increase the number of fingers.some women like up to three or more fingers but most prefer two.however,keep making the "come here"gesture with your finger while increasing the pressure and speed for as long as necessary with your tongue complimenting the effort of your fingers.After she reaches climax the clitoris is very sensitive so you must reduce the intensity of your licking at this point and slowly kiss your way back up to her lips as she pants with delight.You will be sure to receive a gentleman's reward ;).










Monday 6 May 2013

DEALING WITH THE "EX-FACTOR"



The ex-factor can sometimes be a very serious problem when dating an older woman who has partial attachment to her ex.Did you just ask how possible it is for a woman to be partially attached to her ex?well,the answer to that is quite simple,when you are in a relationship with an older woman who has kids with her ex there are always some kind of attachment between them through their kids.Most guys find this difficult to deal with especially in a situation where your partner and her ex have to take the kids out and you are practically not invited for such trips.

A lot of guys allow jealousy creep in the way not because they do not trust their partners but because they only think about their needs.this may further result into arguments and fights between they and their partners.However,what these guys fail to realize is that a woman who has to go on such outing with her ex will do anything to avoid it if it were possible.In most cases they can hardly wait for these meetings to be over so they can get to find comfort in the arms of their young lovers.So as a guy in such a situation you do not want to be seen as the bad guy since your partners ex already has that well covered.

Women who are put in these situation and forced to spend time with their ex because of their kids are often very bitter about such arrangement but in most cases they are compelled to because it is the decision of the court as part of the divorce arrangement.Deep in their heart however,they loathe their ex with a passion and are filled with regrets over meeting and having anything to do with them in the first place.The best way to act in such situation is to always remain calm and understanding.there is the tendency for her to be upset before and after every meeting with her ex.Sometimes they might even get into an argument over issues concerning their kids.whatever you do in such situation even though your loyalty is to her never pass judgement on her ex. she could have been the one with the problem in the first place and she knows it.trying to take sides with her and condemning her ex shows you are bias and untruthful and she might not like that even if she doesn't tell you.so,all you should do is to be as comforting as you can be without letting your own jealousy get in the way.You don't have to lie about your true feelings though but so long as you do not act based on your hurt or your jealousy then you will never have problems.

7 HABITS THAT CAN HARM YOUR CHANCES...


Its a popular saying that one mans meat is another mans poison.This is very true when it comes to the issue of habits which is best described as something a person does always without thinking, especially something that is hard for that person to stop doing.Habits can be either good or bad depending on the effect they have on the individuals life.for the purpose of this post however,I would like us to look into certain habits that are known to have adverse effects on relationship.

SMOKING (CIGARETTES):

Smoking is one very addictive habit that has ruined chances of many relationships and health. A lot of people do not find anything wrong with smoking and many women do not mind dating a guy who smokes. However,a great number of women also can not stand cigarettes.As a guy you must know what the woman you are trying to date feels about smoking.If she is someone who hates cigarettes then you should try to avoid smoking whenever you are together.

DRINKING (ALCOHOL):

Next on the list and perhaps to some people even worse than cigarettes is alcohol.Although a lot of people are able to hold their liquor and act responsibly when they drink so many others do not share this quality.A guy who gets drunk with alcohol all the time will find it difficult maybe impossible to maintain his dignity and pride because people are known to do the unimaginable when they are drunk.Therefore,as a gentleman,you must never under any circumstance be caught drunk in public.

LYING:

some people are born liars,they lie about everything and anything.Such guys can never be trusted with the truth and trust is the foundation for every relationship.

PROFANITY:

Most guys find it hard to speak for 5 minutes without using a foul word.such behavior creates the impression that such people lack decent manner.learn to control what you say by choosing your words carefully.As a guy who wants to be perceived as decent and well groomed you must not be found using words and languages that portrays you in a negative light. Not everybody accepts bad words as standard for communication.

BREAKING PROMISES:

If you are a person who always fails to keep a promise its a very bad habit and shows you can not be reliable and dependable.Never make promises you can not keep.

DRUGS:

The use of drugs has never been more rampant in history than it is today.everyone seems to be involved in this destructive habit with reckless abandon irrespective of age or sex.There are practically no good sides of taking drugs and the result are often very harmful.

These 7 are just a few of the many habits that could ruin your chances of having and sustaining a great relationship with a beautiful woman.They all pose as a great danger not only to your relationship and but also in some cases to your health as well.The choice is yours to either control your habits or allow your habits control you.

Sunday 5 May 2013

UNIQUE COMPLEXITY OF THE WOMAN AND SIMPLE MISTAKES GUYS MAKE


Guys the biggest mistake you will ever make about women is to assume you know entirely what they want.such assumptions has led a great number of guys to their fall.As a guy you will never know what women really want,even women do not know what they want themselves.you disagree?well,have you ever heard a woman complaining one day about how useless men are and that relationships can be such a total waste of time and then the next day you find the same woman on a dating website seeking men for a serious relationship?that just explain how confused they can be about what they want sometimes.So,as a guy it will do you absolutely no good to assume you know everything about what women want.

Women are designed in a very complex way but once you get to understand this, then you will always do above average in your relationship which is remarkably good considering the fact that you can never fully understand any woman.There are slight differences however when it comes to relationships between older women and gigolos.Older women who date younger men understand what they are looking for in a relationship even better than the guys who mostly think about the money they can get for sex. For an older woman the benefits of her dating a younger man is always very clear especially if such a woman has been dating younger men for a long time. These women can smell bullshit from a mile a way and they always have their priorities laid out before going into the relationship.they never do anything without thinking it through thoroughly. irrationality is not one of their characteristics-in other words,they have their emotions in check always.The best way to get along with these women is to assume you know nothing about women and get them to talk about what they need,you will be surprised how clueless you were when they open up.

The mind of a woman is truly complex and even though she might be delicate she could be tough as well.Many guys do not fully comprehend this about women yet and consider them to be weak with the believe that when a woman starts to talk about her problems and challenges it automatically becomes their responsibility to rescue such women.This is a very dangerous step for a guy to take.before trying to rescue her always find out if that's what she wants you to do.just because she is talking to you about a situation doesn't mean she wants you to step in and take charge of it.women are known to be more expressive with words than men and most times all they just want you to do is to listen to them talk. The key however,is to relate with each woman individually.Do not assume because some other woman you dated had certain preference for some things that every woman should be like that.Each woman is unique and must be seen from that angle.she must be able to express herself in her own way while you must be open to new experience.Finally,whatever you do,never compare her to your ex-girlfriends,your mother or any other woman. keep these simple facts in mind and put them into practice everyday and be sure you will continually enjoy your relationship.

DATING OLDER WOMEN-RELATIONSHIP OR CAREER?



In today world,there is a very big misconception about the relationship between a gigolo and an older woman. most peoples definition of such relationship or better still,what they think about the gigolo is, a young man who seeks older women to have sex with in exchange for money.the oxford advanced learner's dictionary defines a gigolo as "a man who is paid to be the 'lover'of an older woman,usually one who is rich". Such narrow definition as this one has led many to believe that there are no feelings attached in such relationships and all what matters is that sex is exchanged for money.However,if that is the case then such can only be described as prostitution which is defined in the oxford advanced learner's dictionary as the work of a prostitute (a person who has sex for money). This definition however contradict that of a gigolo since the gigolo according to the same dictionary is paid to be the 'lover' of an older woman who is rich.

What then is the difference between a prostitute and a gigolo?

As I have pointed out in details, a prostitute is a person who has sex for money while a gigolo is a young man who is paid to be the 'lover' of an older woman therefore,it is safe to say that there are tendencies of feelings and emotions getting involved in such relationship seeing that the word 'lover' is derived from the word 'love' which according to the same oxford dictionary is defined as "a strong feeling of affection for somebody that you are sexually attracted to".This makes it  right to say that a gigolo is not a prostitute because prostitutes don't have such affections and emotions for their clients.

Having made these distinctions,i feel the need to correct the impression that most young men have about older women who date younger men.so many write me asking to be introduced to a "sugar mamma  and the first impression they give me is,"this is a business transaction and i have the goods to sell to the women",well,to an extent i agree that it is acceptable to market yourself as a brand or a product,everyone is allowed to sell but are you selling the right product?how is your marketing strategy?are your products acceptable?

Relationship between a gigolo and an older woman is just like any other relationship between a man and a woman in spite of the age differences that might be involved.these women must find you not just attractive physically but also,you must have the intelligence to match her years and level of experience in life.older women like the younger ones are human beings and they need to feel wanted and loved and appreciated for who they are not because of what they possess in material things.You must understand that its a 'relationship' and there has to be compatibility. Yes, you have to understand that her friends will be different from yours and her goals in life too,that's why you must ask yourself if you are able to match her life goals and expectations?how confident are you?these are very big factors that you must also consider when you are aspiring to get into a relationship with an older woman especially if you live in a country where there is such stiff opposition from friends and family to such relationships.

As a young man who desires a relationship with an older woman you should understand that being a gigolo is not a job just like being a gay or a cougar is not a job. After all you don't get to receive a monthly paycheck or even pay taxes.You might get financial assistance and gifts from your lover but that's a different thing entirely.It is unwise to make your relationship with an older woman a job. Try to find something to do to earn money however little and buy her things as well. It's a different thing if she is helping you build a career than you making her your career.

In conclusion,here are a few questions you must also ask yourself before you decide if you want to be a gigolo:
1. Do you like older women?
2. Are you able to handle yourself in a mature way?
3. Can you be flexible and open to new experiences?
4.Why do you prefer older women?

For older women who date younger men the benefits of such relationship for them is well spelled out.these women are certain with what they seek from such relationships and it varies from one woman to another so you might as well get your priorities lined up before going into a relationship with an older woman.


Saturday 4 May 2013

ATTRACTING THE OLDER WOMAN;THE SMOOTH GIGOLO....


Have you ever been rejected by an older woman?Do you sometimes wonder why the other guys seem to be having it easy dating older women while you have repeatedly been put down in your advances?

This post is mean't for all the guys who have tried dating older women and failed,you will agree with me if you ever got the chance that it is not the same as dating a girl the same age as you.mainly because the older woman unlike their younger counterparts have much more experiences in dating.older women however,are not as hard to catch if you understand the basic rules.these rules are pretty simple but very vital in attracting and dating an older woman.I will try to highlight some of these keys so as to help you increase your chances of being a gigolo and getting older women to want you.

SEX:

Sex is a very important part of the relationship between a gigolo and an older woman who are attracted to each other.but sex isn't the only ingredient that makes up a relationship.most people think being a gigolo automatically means you have to become a sex tool to satisfy an older woman's sexual cravings in exchange for money.this is very wrong,sex should not be put in the fore when trying to attract an older woman.you must never let her think or feel that you are a sex tool with nothing else to offer her unless you are convinced that is all she wants from you and that is all you have to give.

CONFIDENCE:

It is very important that you appear confident and mature even if you are not,even though they are older than you,these women want to feel that you are a real man capable of 'handling' them and their issues.older women tend to be more aggressive compared to their younger counterparts,this is because they usually know what they want and what they do not want because of their years of experience.According to a 2009 survey, 45% of cougars have dated at least 5 younger men and 48% prefer guys 24-29 years old.It means that almost half the Cougars you meet not only have years of experience dating men their own age or older, they're also quite savvy with younger men.thus,you must make her feel that you know what you are doing and capable of handling yourself in a manner that is mature,decent and bold.

ONLINE DATING:

In recent years most relationship are known to begin online,dating websites have been very effective even though some people argue that the internet has done a certain amount of damage to the way relationship is perceived  however, we all agree that more people are getting into online dating each day with an alarming increase.therefore,its imperative to point at some of the mistakes young guys make when contacting older women online and below are a few:

. Hi/How are you?/Hey

These aren't wrong generally, but when that’s all you've got, you’re not going to catch much in the way of attention from the women who you are talking to. It shows that you’re unimaginative, not a good talker and if they've got a fully filled out profile it shows that you didn't read. If you can’t find anything to say that’s not just a hello then why should any time be wasted on you?

. I love your pics.

What about the pics did you like? This isn't an invitation to launch into love tale, but maybe say that she looks beautiful instead or that she looks like a fun woman. If she’s got one where she’s on a boat, talk about the boat. If she’s doing something like rock-climbing talk to her about that. Even if the pictures are clearly taken just for this site, put some detail into it otherwise it’s just a canned message.

. My number is…/My email is…

It’s strange,right? But putting your contact information into a message right away just makes you look desperate. Think about this for a second, you’re giving your number out to a complete stranger without having any real contact with them. By doing this it sends out a signal that you are one, doing this with other women as well and two, that you are not looking for anything meaningful. It’s the equivalent of scrawling your name and number on napkins before handing them out to every girl at the bar who has even remotely caught your interest.

. I want to be your gigolo.

This seems like an innocent enough statement to make, but the problem with it is that it is often something which is said right away to older women. Imagine the reaction of a woman if you went up to her after seeing her having some coffee and said “I want to be your boyfriend.” You’re giving off the same kind of vibe here. While you might very well want to be the gigolo of the older woman you are contacting, try to rephrase it in a way that’s less creepy. Tell her that you are interested in getting to know her better as that is a much more normal way to catch someone’s interest.

. How old are you?/You can’t be that old/You look good for your age

Don’t bring the age into it. Nobody likes to think of their age once they reach a certain point (and this is true of both men and women) so why would you bring up their age? While you might think saying that they couldn't be as old as their age is a compliment, it’s a backhanded one. You’re giving off the idea that their actual age is truly ancient even if they don’t look it.

. I love older women.

This is a weird one to have on this list, I’ll admit, but it does give off some strange vibes that you’re going to want to avoid. That means you’re just going after her for her age.

. I can email you my pictures.

The women who are on these website are on it in part because it provides a level of security. They don’t want to have to give away their contact information right away and by giving away their email that’s exactly what you’re doing. Have pictures on the website. You can block out your face if you’d like, but don’t say that you’re just going to send pictures later. The women don’t want to hear it unless you’re offering to email them more pictures than you already have on your profile (but still not a great thing to do in the first message).

. Tell me your fantasy.

Ugh. Not only is it cheesy, but it’s just creepy in a first message. It’s one thing if fantasies come up naturally in a conversation, but if they’re just mentioned out of nowhere it’s not something that most people would want to answer. There needs to be some build up to that question or it is like being on a date with the guy furiously palming himself under the table. Gross.

Once you have mastered each of these keys I've mentioned and begin to consciously practice them you will to experience tremendous progress not only in attracting older women but also successfully dating and having a great relationship with them.other keys you must also be conscious of include How to know if she's interested in you,What type of body language will get her attention,How long to wait before calling her once you get her number,When to text and more importantly, when NOT to text,How to ask her out,Where to go on the first date,How to create "sexual tension,When to have sex,and finally how to keep an older woman.

These are a few tips to help you improve your game and I hope you find them helpful. Watch out for subsequent post here on gigolo.com.

Peace

INTELLIGENCE-THE ULTIMATE APHRODISIAC


In my personal experience,one thing I've come to realize with the older women I've been with is that they all have a soft spot for intelligence.Women are generally attracted to men who study,think and have understanding.Talking about intelligence,as a guy you do not have to be a rocket scientist or an astronaut to get women to be attracted to you,however,i guaranty that you will not get them by being stupid either.

The vast majority of today's male are very much into the fast life,hip-hop music,partying and having a good time.these things aren't bad but such lifestyle becomes worrisome when it is all guys think about.Most guys from this generation do not even understand the reason behind setting up a government,guys go blank at the mention of the words 'stock exchange'.All they care about is having a good time and that's what life is all about as far as they understand.

As a guy reading this you might be thinking ,"well, I've got the fine looks and that's enough to get the ladies attention".True!women will notice you and perhaps want to get to know you even but you will need more than good looks to keep an older woman once you have gained her attention.These women aren't like the young girls who are mostly attracted to your looks,your car and your swag...older women desire more.These are mostly women in the working class with a very rich knowledge reserve laced with years of life's experience.To sustain a relationship with such women you must bring your A++ game and if all you have got is a handsome face and a sexy body,then it may not be enough because she has probably been with guys more handsome and more sexy than you who turned out to be complete babies,therefore,she might not want to waste her time with you unless of course if all she is after is a one night stand (ONS),friends with benefit (FWB) or, a no strings attached (NSA) relationship.

What is the smart thing to do?

Well, this might appear a surprise to many but it is very easy to overcome this problem.the way out is simply to keep a teachable spirit and be open to learning.older women know from experience that guys do not have monopoly to intelligence.they are aware that they might actually know a lot more than these guys and are always willing to teach and guide if only the guy asks the right questions that shows him as someone eager to learn and grow.Another intelligent problem that guys have with older women is knowing what to talk about.Because guys have been fed with the wicked misconception that all an older woman needs from a gigolo is sex in exchange for her money,guys mind always seem to drift towards the topic of sex and money,trying to impress these women with stories of their sexual prowess.However, today's women have grown beyond the role of baby making and sex symbols.women have gone ahead to do remarkably well in sports,politics and government,business,science and technology and of course entertainment.

The moment you realize that women are also capable and sometimes more intelligent than the males, beginning to see these women not only as sex symbols to be objectified you will find out there are so much more interesting topics to talk about with a woman besides sex.Now,sex on its own is a beautiful thing to talk about and experience with an older woman but at the same time the dangers of talking about it are so enormous.  as a guy you constantly have to watch out for pitfalls when discussing sex with an older woman.your choice of words must not be perceived as inappropriate or lacking maturity because that might send the wrong signal and make her lose interest.for example,not every woman finds the words hooters and boobies appropriate in a conversation so you might want to tone it down and seek more pleasant words in replacement.Knowing what to talk about is very important just as much as knowing when to be quiet.In the future I shall talk extensively about the intelligence in silence (when to speak and when to listen)but until then.....ciao

SEX,SEX,SEX...HOW COMPLICATED CAN IT GET?


I have heard a lot of people say it is not possible to have a relationship without sex. I've also heard a lot of people who referred to sex as the sole reason they had failed relationships,it was either they weren't getting as much as they wanted or the other partners were complaining that they did't want too much of sex in these relationships.Another group of people blame the failure of their relationships on 'whack sex' and this group of people are the reason for this write up.

 What is whack Sex???

For the purpose of clarity i would try as much as I can to keep it short and simple.whack sex refers to the wrong ways of love making.it could be as a result of so many things done poorly or so many things not done at all that made sexual experience boring.

What are the causes of whack sex?

The sole responsible factor for whack sex is lack of proper sex education with most people having to learn about sex through porn videos and websites.porn is a very beautiful thing in many ways but because of the unrealistic pictures they paint they tend to cause more harm than good to the mind set of the viewer.For example,Porn makes you believe that men love coming on women's face and every woman in porn videos loves this but in real life situation its not true,some women like it some don't and some guys love to do it while others don't.its entirely up to individual preferences.

Also,the porn industry is an industry that's dominated by men and they tend to create products tailored to suit the needs and desires of men.by using porn as a guide to learn about sex guys only become aware of how to make themselves feel good.Another thing that I have to point out here is that in the real world a lot of women aren't into anal sex,some women love it, but it is wrong to believe that everybody should accept it as a regular form of sex which porn makes us believe.

In making love to your partner there is the sheer pleasure of skin on skin which allows partners to have sex with their arms around each other and bodies pressed against each other,this is not portrayed in porn because usually its all about having sex for the camera angles and what we see as the only parts of the bodies touching are the genitals.Also,most guys are used to the unrealistic idea that a man can get a woman turned on by touching or sticking his fingers into a her pussy and boom! she is wet and ready just as they have seen in porn videos but that's not true,a man can easily get turned on by a girl reaching straight for his dick even if they had never met each other before.with women it doesn't work that way.guys must learn the importance of foreplay and after-play kissing,tit touching,nipple sucking and general licking.basically,you have to start from the top and work your way down the bottom.

As a guy you may want to find out what your partner is into before forcing it on her during sex with the assumptions that every woman likes the same thing.A lot of women do not like dirty words during sex and calling her a bitch or a slut might just land you into trouble.finally,while some women like the idea of being made to gag during a blowjob by having their hair grabbed and a dick forcibly shoved down their throats many others do not appreciate this action from their partners during sex.

How do you improve your sex game as a male to pleasure your woman?

The need to pleasure your woman can never be over emphasized.once you fail in your responsibility as a man to give her the pleasures she needs,there is a vacuum that is created automatically and she begins to looks elsewhere to fill it.Shawna Lenee, the 2 Girls Teach Sex expert in this excerpt gives great insightful knowledge that every man should have about how to pleasure a woman.here is it:

Love Making Mistake #1: Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn't

You may think that your lover is having “multiples” (or even ONE you-know-what) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises and even TELL YOU it’s happening. But is she really?
Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on “faking it”. I’m not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking it EVERY TIME but… chances are there have been a few episodes of love making where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.
When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to finish. It doesn't mean you are awful at love making; just that being a mind-blowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.
If you are pleasing your woman with the “Big O” (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You’re one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing your woman REALLY WELL. But if you’re not, it is crucial that you learn how…

Love Making Mistake #2: Not Giving Her a Variety of Love Making Experiences

A lot of guys who are new to love making – or are used to doing it with the same woman – tend to forget when it comes to pleasing your woman she wants different KINDS of sensual EXPERIENCES.
You might think that changing love making positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting IS a mixing it up. But it is not.
Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes when pleasing your woman she wants to be taken, sometimes she wants it hard, and sometimes she wants to make love.
If you are NOT talking during love making and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she CAN’T be totally fulfilled. Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in love making.
Let’s look at an example.
Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them.
This is why that when a women cheats, it is often with a “bad boy.”
However, you don’t need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in love making. Just be a bad boy yourself by giving her a light spanking, talking dirty, and giving it to her good!
Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels they read with Fabio on the cover. This is not a myth… women REALLY read this stuff!
Now, I’m not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse… but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.
Get it?
The skinny is this:
You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences… and YOU are capable of giving her each kind… but you have to mix it up!

Love Making Mistake #3: Forgetting To Be A MAN

Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL.
That’s right, we want YOU to call the shots!
As long as you are respectful, your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and switch positions without asking, and to do what YOU want!
Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate.
Sure, it’s ok to ask her if she is enjoying something… but keep it simple. Save the talk about actual love making positions she liked for AFTER you are done.
Now don’t get me wrong – you are not making her a slave here, but rather leading with authority and masculine strength.
Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think a woman is just uptight if she doesn't want to do something… when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with strength and confidence. You’ll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Love Making Mistake #4: Thinking Sex Isn't That Important To Her

If you want to know how much women LOVE sex… just think about how loudly we scream during love making! You won’t ever hear a guy screaming like that!
You might THINK that your drive is much higher than your woman’s because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But…
As hard as it is to accept, recognize that if your girl doesn't want to make love, it is NOT always because she doesn't want to.
Unfortunately, it’s probably because you just aren't getting her off.
Fortunately this is an easy fix, and in a moment we’ll talk about how to do it…

Love Making Mistake #5: Being Silent/Emotionless in Bed

You may think that it is “cheesy” or “creepy” to talk romantically in bed. (you may think its weird to talk at all in bed) However, women HATE silent, mechanical love making.
Why?
I’ll say it again: We women THRIVE on emotion.
Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT ways to give your girl STRONG EMOTIONS in bed. And strong emotions = STRONG FEMALE ORGASMS.
Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that give your girl the most pleasure. The most POWERFUL FEMALE ORGASM “BIG O” will always be triggered by our MINDS, not by our physical bodies.
Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having making love, and she will experience the most intense pleasure of her life!

Love Making Mistake #6: Trading Dinners/Flowers/etc To Get Sex From Her

Many men mistakenly think that we women aren't interested in love making (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking), and that they have to “trade something” with her to get her to want intimacy.
This is why you see so many guys trying to “get there” with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts.
While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SOME. When you have to trade something to get intimacy from your girl, realize that this is PROOF you are just not truly satisfying her in the bedroom.
When you are intimately satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for it, but she will often spontaneously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating lovemaking constantly. Just wait and see!

Love Making Mistake #7: Not Giving Her Enough “Foreplay”

If you still think of “foreplay” as the activity before love making, well then you are thinking of it WRONG!
Here’s a hint: What to please your woman… Women consider foreplay as PART of the lovemaking. NOT as a separate thing!
Here’s why:
While a man is not always capable of having a “Big O” during foreplay AND then another “Big O” during the actual lovemaking, WOMEN CAN!
Imagine if YOU could have one during foreplay… AND not lose any firmness and keep having them well into lovemaking. You’d want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?
Well your girl CAN have foreplay “O’s” AND penetration “O’s” so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!
As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as lovemaking and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the lovemaking better when you are finally inside of her.

Love Making Mistake #8: Not Lasting Long Enough

This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it. But while all guys know they need to last long… they don’t necessarily know HOW LONG that is!
Well, after talking to dozens of my girlfriends about the subject, I've discovered that we all think pretty much alike…
If you can last at least 20 minutes, most women will be SUPER happy with that!

Love Making Mistake #9: Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior

It’s no secret that we women can be a LOT moodier than you men =)
But if you’re in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time… this is often because she isn't getting what she needs in the bedroom.
FACT.
As we talked about before… while women aren't usually as sexually aggressive as men, we do love and NEED to make love just as much!
But here’s the thing… if you’re not giving her the “Big O”… then lovemaking does her no good!
Can you imagine if when you were “taking care of yourself” you could NEVER “get there”? You’d begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you’d get so frustrated by the inability to “finish” that it would just be easier to avoid it COMPLETELY!
Sooo…
If you can’t give her the “Big O” why WOULD she want to make love with you?
The answer:
She won’t.
If your girl is not wanting to make love with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her.
In the beginning, she may have tolerated it because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and lovemaking isn't satisfying for her, it is more fulfilling for her to take care of HERSELF when you’re not around. This leads to only being with you on special occasions… or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)
If you recognize any of these signs, it’s time to step up your game NOW before the drought gets even worse.
And when you do, you’ll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in bed, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis… but SHE’LL start initiating making love with YOU!
A close friend of mine who is some what of a love-making expert himself told me something that I didnt’ believe at the time… but I now KNOW to be 100% true:
IF YOU ARE GIVING HER THE BEST OF HER LIFE, SHE WON’T CARE IF YOU ARE HOMELESS LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX… AS LONG AS YOU CAN MAKE LOVE IN IT!
And hey, I’ll admit it… if a man can give it to me like that, this is probably true =)
If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting intimacy, or acting “distant” in some way, it’s time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your ability because the real culprit is inadequate love making pleasure.

Love Making Mistake #10: Not Getting Help

Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey, not a destination. Top athletes don’t all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. CEOs don’t suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep growing. And guess what… lovemaking is no different.
To be an amazing lover you can’t ever be blinded by arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new tricks or tips to get you to the next level.
If you’re serious about getting this part of your life together… and joining the 1% of all men who can REALLY rock a woman’s world in the bedroom… I’d like to invite you to check out my new groundbreaking DVD series, 2 Girls Teach Sex.
In it, you’ll discover DOZENS of secrets on how to get your woman turned on BEFORE you make love, foreplay tricks that make her BEG to have you inside of her, the little-known positions that GUARANTEE she “gets there”, how to get your girl to start initiating intimacy with you, how to give her “multiples”… and much, much more!
Best of all, you can try it RISK-FREE. Get it out there, watch the videos, and try out the techniques. If your girl isn't SCREAMING with pleasure and begging you to make love to her at all times of the day, simply pack them up and return them for a full refund, no questions asked.
Of course, I ’d be “crazy” to make an offer like that if we were at all worried about that happening. In fact, I’ll bet that once you get these DVDs out there and see how well these techniques work, we wouldn't be able to pry them out of your hands with a crowbar!
I’m this confident because I know from experience that these are the REAL secrets women want you to know =)
Click on the link below, and start using them for yourself and for her female orgasm.
There is a whole new world of excitement in love making waiting for you out there… and this is your ticket for pleasing your woman.

The entire purpose for this topic is to correct the notion that sex is about pleasing yourself as a man and hopefully getting you to begin to concentrate more on pleasing your partner.Cause that is what will keep her wanting you more.

Good luck guys.