ATTRACTING THE OLDER WOMAN;THE SMOOTH GIGOLO....

Have you ever been rejected by an older woman?Do you sometimes wonder why the other guys seem to be having it easy dating older women while you have repeatedly been put down in your advances?

This post is mean't for all the guys who have tried dating older women and failed,you will agree with me if you ever got the chance that it is not the same as dating a girl the same age as you.mainly because the older woman unlike their younger counterparts have much more experiences in dating.older women however,are not as hard to catch if you understand the basic rules.these rules are pretty simple but very vital in attracting and dating an older woman.I will try to highlight some of these keys so as to help you increase your chances of being a gigolo and getting older women to want you.

SEX:

Sex is a very important part of the relationship between a gigolo and an older woman who are attracted to each other.but sex isn't the only ingredient that makes up a relationship.most people think being a gigolo automatically means you have to become a sex tool to satisfy an older woman's sexual cravings in exchange for money.this is very wrong,sex should not be put in the fore when trying to attract an older woman.you must never let her think or feel that you are a sex tool with nothing else to offer her unless you are convinced that is all she wants from you and that is all you have to give.

CONFIDENCE:

It is very important that you appear confident and mature even if you are not,even though they are older than you,these women want to feel that you are a real man capable of 'handling' them and their issues.older women tend to be more aggressive compared to their younger counterparts,this is because they usually know what they want and what they do not want because of their years of experience.According to a 2009 survey, 45% of cougars have dated at least 5 younger men and 48% prefer guys 24-29 years old.It means that almost half the Cougars you meet not only have years of experience dating men their own age or older, they're also quite savvy with younger men.thus,you must make her feel that you know what you are doing and capable of handling yourself in a manner that is mature,decent and bold.

ONLINE DATING:

In recent years most relationship are known to begin online,dating websites have been very effective even though some people argue that the internet has done a certain amount of damage to the way relationship is perceived  however, we all agree that more people are getting into online dating each day with an alarming increase.therefore,its imperative to point at some of the mistakes young guys make when contacting older women online and below are a few:

. Hi/How are you?/Hey

These aren't wrong generally, but when that’s all you've got, you’re not going to catch much in the way of attention from the women who you are talking to. It shows that you’re unimaginative, not a good talker and if they've got a fully filled out profile it shows that you didn't read. If you can’t find anything to say that’s not just a hello then why should any time be wasted on you?

. I love your pics.

What about the pics did you like? This isn't an invitation to launch into love tale, but maybe say that she looks beautiful instead or that she looks like a fun woman. If she’s got one where she’s on a boat, talk about the boat. If she’s doing something like rock-climbing talk to her about that. Even if the pictures are clearly taken just for this site, put some detail into it otherwise it’s just a canned message.

. My number is…/My email is…

It’s strange,right? But putting your contact information into a message right away just makes you look desperate. Think about this for a second, you’re giving your number out to a complete stranger without having any real contact with them. By doing this it sends out a signal that you are one, doing this with other women as well and two, that you are not looking for anything meaningful. It’s the equivalent of scrawling your name and number on napkins before handing them out to every girl at the bar who has even remotely caught your interest.

. I want to be your gigolo.

This seems like an innocent enough statement to make, but the problem with it is that it is often something which is said right away to older women. Imagine the reaction of a woman if you went up to her after seeing her having some coffee and said “I want to be your boyfriend.” You’re giving off the same kind of vibe here. While you might very well want to be the gigolo of the older woman you are contacting, try to rephrase it in a way that’s less creepy. Tell her that you are interested in getting to know her better as that is a much more normal way to catch someone’s interest.

. How old are you?/You can’t be that old/You look good for your age

Don’t bring the age into it. Nobody likes to think of their age once they reach a certain point (and this is true of both men and women) so why would you bring up their age? While you might think saying that they couldn't be as old as their age is a compliment, it’s a backhanded one. You’re giving off the idea that their actual age is truly ancient even if they don’t look it.

. I love older women.

This is a weird one to have on this list, I’ll admit, but it does give off some strange vibes that you’re going to want to avoid. That means you’re just going after her for her age.

. I can email you my pictures.

The women who are on these website are on it in part because it provides a level of security. They don’t want to have to give away their contact information right away and by giving away their email that’s exactly what you’re doing. Have pictures on the website. You can block out your face if you’d like, but don’t say that you’re just going to send pictures later. The women don’t want to hear it unless you’re offering to email them more pictures than you already have on your profile (but still not a great thing to do in the first message).

. Tell me your fantasy.

Ugh. Not only is it cheesy, but it’s just creepy in a first message. It’s one thing if fantasies come up naturally in a conversation, but if they’re just mentioned out of nowhere it’s not something that most people would want to answer. There needs to be some build up to that question or it is like being on a date with the guy furiously palming himself under the table. Gross.

Once you have mastered each of these keys I've mentioned and begin to consciously practice them you will to experience tremendous progress not only in attracting older women but also successfully dating and having a great relationship with them.other keys you must also be conscious of include How to know if she's interested in you,What type of body language will get her attention,How long to wait before calling her once you get her number,When to text and more importantly, when NOT to text,How to ask her out,Where to go on the first date,How to create "sexual tension,When to have sex,and finally how to keep an older woman.

These are a few tips to help you improve your game and I hope you find them helpful. Watch out for subsequent post here on gigolo.com.

Peace